There’s more to be being happy in your skin than just being happy. It takes lots of things – confidence, leaps of faith and positive input.

It’s very difficult to just ‘do it’, to just be happy as you are.

So sometimes you need a little help to get you started, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s why the beauty industry is so huge, and why we read magazines like Cosmo. Which again is fine, so long as it isn’t your all-encompassing everything in life.

I had a friend a few years ago with an outwardly confidence deflating problem. Nothing major, just simple darker patches of skin on her face. I never gave it a second thought, but of course she had spent all her life seeing those discoloured patches in the mirror. And that can eat away at you and undermine your confidence.

So when I discussed it with her one evening, and discovered how it really made her feel, I took a dangerous step – I said, let’s do something about it.

She could have been offended, and felt my position as friend was simply to reassure her that it wasn’t a problem. But it was a problem. Not for anyone else. But it was for her – and that does count, and it does matter. So we set out together to look for solutions, and we settled on the Meladerm skin whitener. There are lots of similar products but this one has a lot of good reviews, and is based on very natural ingredients which was important to both of us – it’s so gentle you can use it on most of the delicate areas of your body such as your face and even underarms ( So now the trial is underway.

But the immediate benefit is very clear for me to see.

It’s too early yet to see lightening in the skin, but I can immediately see that my friend feels a boost in confidence and self-esteem. Simply because we are trying to do something about a problem that she perceives. It’s brought us closer as friends too, as she can see that I care enough about her to risk offending her in order to help her. And to spend my time doing something that is just for her. It’s been an interesting experience so far, so I look forward to updating you all on this one.